No. It's a two dispatch expression that can instantly move chills downward the spine of the strongest "strong man - woman" and knocks the twist out of anyone's sails. In the amusement industry it's a language unit you may hear a million nowadays..."No." Even if you hear the word "No" one a million and one times, never dispense up! I know it takes a lot of strength of mind and motive to get passed that microscopic word, but you can do it!

"No" seems to have a a million polar morale attached to it, depending on how 'no' is taken. It also depends on the person's perceptions once he or she hears the linguistic unit. Sometimes it can disconnect you in your tracks especially once it pertains to your music, which is portion of who you are.

No seems to be determined or be taken as:

1. They don't suchlike what I have to say or put up for sale.

2. They don't approaching me.

3. What's inaccurate beside me?

4. What did I do otherwise than the else being who got the yes?

6. I essential not be as proficient or well-versed as the causal agency who got the yes.

7. What haven't I got that the human being who got the yes does?

8. Did my natural endowment only just not gauge up?

There are masses much idea that we can go finished in our minds once we are forsaken for doesn't matter what plea. Too recurrently we individualise the human activity as opposing to only realizing it's not really personal, it's fair a enterprise conclusion for them.

We all try to rationalize it and say "It's right a word! It's not the first incident I've detected it and it won't be the second case I hear it in this commercial." But what we cognizance interior is so deviating.

We touch whole snub and we can perceive completely discouraged. When the remark "no" comes out of someone's jaws about our work, it's as if we were forsaken and it can bring down posterior unconscious reminiscences of our immaturity.

The Random House Dictionary defines no as:

"no, adv., n, pl. 1. sound nearly new to articulate dissent, denial, or refusal - n 2. denial ballot vote - adj. 3. not any."

As brood we are told "no, don't touch that or you'll get burned." Although we perceive our parents inform us that, we lifeless want to touch that combustion. After all, 'what does shine certainly mean? And it's so beautiful...I newly poorness to touch it.' When we do...Ouch!

Then our parents say, "I told you no, don't touch that! Now do you see why?" Our minds afterwards equate "no" to the expression 'ouch, you're active to get hurt!' That would pocket on the firstborn consequence in the Random House Dictionary of "no," which is dissent, implication "difference of evaluation." The parent's persuasion was that the let off would distress. The child's inference was that fire was so beautiful how could it hurt?

When we got senior and go to school, on the area we may hear, "No, you can't dramatic play near me." The statement "no" later invokes an totally disparate foreboding later our most primitive experiences beside the linguistic unit "no." It now means rejection! So "no" takes on the ordinal portion of the Random House Dictionary's designation of the word, and that is a "negative ballot."

Another youth on the country has sort a "negative vote" in our way expression they don't impoverishment to frisk near us. We weren't given an story as to why they didn't want to kick up your heels next to us, we were righteous told "no" and our minds equated that to act.

And so our lives keep in this template of connection. The sound "no" seems to always be associated next to something bad and seems to club in our remembrance far more than nowadays than we've detected yes. Hurtful reminiscences closing the longer.

So how can we exchange this? I can lone hypothesise. Maybe we should go rearward to our formative years memoirs and re-program them so that the phrase "no" doesn't have such as a large impact. Or peradventure we a moment ago have to beginning truthful now and really admit in our minds, what our mouths declare to our house and friends, and that is...that "no" is just a phrase.

But I admit that we should give somebody a lift the ordinal gist in the Random House Dictionary and employ it in a a tad revised, individualised bearing anytime we hear the name "no."

For example, if I comprehend the language unit "no" now, once it's straight connected to anything that has to do next to my art, I say to myself, "They have 'not any' sensation." "They have 'not any' contact on my natural life." "They have 'not any' indication as to what they are speaking something like." Then that expression seems to have so markedly less impact, and feels a lot smaller amount close to a "negative vote" towards my ad hominem one.

And once I say these things to myself and cerebrate them exactly to the idiom "no," it will no longer be a snub of me, but a human activity of the separate person's deduction set of connections. After all, they are purely individuals whose possibility systems are incompatible after hole in the ground. From now on, once person says 'no' to me, the negative impinging is gone, and 'not any' any longer will I let it feeling me.

Copyright 2005 Jaci Rae

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